Questions & finding the right fit
A little more clarity,
before we begin.
Explore the practical questions and what working together could look like.
Working together
What if one of us prefers Mandarin and the other prefers English?
Each of you speaks in the language you think in. I follow both, and I make sure the partner with less English isn't quietly doing less of the talking.
We haven't told anyone we're in therapy.
That's common, and it's yours to keep. Sessions are by video, nothing goes on a shared calendar, and I never confirm to anyone that I'm working with you.
One of us doesn't believe in therapy.
That's fine. Willingness to show up matters more than belief. The skeptical partner often changes their mind once they see the other one change.
How do you handle in-laws?
As a real part of the marriage, not a problem to cut out. The goal is a way of relating to family that both of you can live with.
Do you see individuals?
A small number, usually one partner from a couple I'm already seeing, or someone whose concerns are relational. My practice is moving toward couples.
Fees & insurance
What does it cost, and do you take insurance?
Couples $225, individuals $180, fifty minutes. Blue Cross Blue Shield of Massachusetts for Massachusetts clients; Texas clients are private pay with a superbill. A sliding scale is available; ask.
Finding the right fit
Likely a good fit
- You're a couple, and both of you are willing to show up, even if one of you is skeptical.
- At least one of you was raised in Taiwan or China, or in a Chinese-speaking home.
- You'd rather be understood than fixed.
- Faith is part of your life, or it isn't; either way you want it respected.
You may want someone else
- You are looking for a structured programme with a set number of sessions.
- One of you needs individual treatment for something the marriage can't hold right now.
- You want a therapist who will use a Christian or biblical counseling model.
If you are in danger or in crisis, call or text 988, or go to your nearest emergency room.
Draft answers from the original website · Pei-Hsuan to review.
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